Pandering Popularity

Now that I have my blog, the next task that confronts me is to make it popular. Well I have visited a few bloggers like Steve @ stevepavlina.com and Darren @ Problogger.net. Well I quite have not understood their "monetizing a blog" or "publicizing it". Maybe I will simply ask my friends, relatives and associates to visit my blog and post comments. Well another option would be to make my blog raunchy like the "Compulsive Confessor" or something similar. But would a raunchy blog run by a middle aged guy would be half as popular as a raunchy blog run by a approaching middle class female who recounts her experiences as a fellatrix, her sexual adventures and raves and rants about being celibate for several months now as if she is available for a romp with just anyone who may be kind enough to ask her "May I". No way pal! I better come up with a jolly good idea and soon! I hear that if any blog is not really popular within a certain period Blogger takes them of the Net. So guys if you have any idea please let me know.